"it really seems you are coaching for success or best possible result vs coaching for player development"...my players from house a few years back are the best players on their Div 2 team and the 4 I took to my team this year (two more could have easily made it...that's 8 out of 11 kids) are the best on our Div 1 team....I coach to develop but also to encourage a high work rate and compete level. I think I've said enough about this topic, I get the impression you might feel uncomfortable with the word "compete" while I think its healthy and offers a good and strong foundation to their future's...in all aspects. I coached U12 last year and for various reasons took the Div 2B team. the guy that had the Div 2A team created a mess for me this year...he never challenged his kids and he made sure all parents were happy and rah rah...I watched 4 of his games...all of them losses, all by huge margins and yet, Mr Rah rah had something positive to pull out from every loss. fast forward to this year where I now have 4 or 5 of his kids on my team...it was a nightmare coaching kids that were far worse than mine from a lower level. Here's the kicker....the parents of the boys he coached all blame him now (in hindsight) for not coaching with some level of accountability and competitiveness...they all feel their boys lost a year to having fun but not developing....which is why I initially said when I got my boys in April, we were a nightmare and I really did have my work cut out for me....their coach last season was fun and evenly balanced and didn't include an element of compete...like they do in every successful soccer Nation on earth. Now, every kid (except that one) has learned to work and contribute....and guess what....the parents started out apprehensive and nervous...they had never seen anyone raise their voice at their kid, nobody held them accountable, nobody ever spent 3 practice days/week during the Spring (April-Jun) and then 3 days/week training in August, just to help prepare their boys...and now these parents have relaxed and accepted their kids are capable of playing position, completing their assignments, competing for the ball and playing as a team-mate. How much confidence do you think these kids have now? two weekends ago we had a bye and an MSL team asked for an exhibition...we accepted...we won....who was more happy than the kids or me....right...the parents....they now see their little angels being accountable!